A Time For Romance

This is the time of year when everybody’s thoughts are of romance and being in love. This can be a very happy time if you have a special someone to share it with. But, it can be a lonely and rather depressing time if you don’t have someone to share it with.

When looking for that special someone you might need help on things to do when dating to keep your date interested. eHarmony has some tips that can help you keep your date interested.

Once you have that special person keep the romance going with some romantic ideas. Remember Valentine’s Day offers Romance For Everyone. And that says it all.

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How Important Is this Argument?

That’s something to ask yourself the next time you and your mate are arguing. So many times a little disagreement turns into this big over grown blowout. I find that most of the time it comes down to a difference of opinion and each party are trying to convince the other that their side is right. In the act of defending the fact that your opinion is right, something is said that sounds offensive. Something like, “What you’re saying is just stupid” and then you’re off to the races.

Before you get into the “my opinion is right yours is wrong” cycle, stop to think how important is this issue anyway, is the wrong opinion going to cause any of you any harm? If this keeps going along this same track will it hurt the relationship? What harm is going to do to just stop and say you have your opinion and I have mine and then talk about something else.

Measure the harm fighting for opinion is going to have on the relationship verses the physical, emotional or financial harm the wrong opinion is going to have on one or both parties. If the physical, emotional or financial harm out weighs the harm on the relationship and you truly feel your opinion is right then by all means fight for that opinion. However, if not harming the relationship carries the most weight and those other things are not affected or affected very little just let it go.

Lots of relationships are broken because some nasty things were said in a “matter of opinion” situation over an issue that didn’t matter. Make your relationship matter more than your opinion over some stupid little issue that doesn’t matter. And that says it all.

Making A Change Makes A Better Relationship

Me and my girlfriend use to be at each other’s throats all the time. We argue it seems like every other day. Then one day it stopped. We are now getting along better than we ever had, we laugh and joke and tease each other (out of fun), which we could never do before and we have and give each other more respect.

We both use to be afraid of saying anything to each other because we never knew what might set off an argument. Now I know you’re saying then way stay together? Well, because we both knew how the other good person could be. How good we were in the beginning and how good we were to each other when we weren’t arguing. We weren’t cheating on each other and we didn’t have money problems (don’t get me wrong we don’t have much money, it’s just not a problem), we just had things the other did that got on our nerves so bad that sometimes it just blew up out of proportion.

Okay, so what changed? What change was we both decided to change ourselves instead of trying to change the other person. We started looking at the things we were doing that might be causing the problem instead of blaming each other for causing the problem. We decided to change the way we re-acted to things and put them in there proper perspective. For me, I have things that if anybody does them it irritates me to no end and my girlfriend does most of those things and it use to cause a lot of problems. But by changing the way I re-act to those things my girlfriend was more willing to try and be more conscious of them and not do them.

One thing though, in order for this change to work, both partners has to be willing to make the change. So if you’re having problems in you’re relationship but you want to stay together, if you really care for each other and you really want your relationship to work out and you really want to enjoy each other, make the change, believe me you’ll be glad you did. And that says it all.

I Love My Mommy

I saved the best love for last. My mother is the greatest mother on the earth. That’s the most commonly made statement ever. Most every person on the planet feels that way about their mother. The love we have for our mothers is the greatest love of all.

Let me talk about my mother. My mother wasn’t a well-educated woman, she dropped out of school when got pregnant with me. For the most part she raised four of use on her own until she met and married my youngest brother and sister’s father. During my teen years and early twenties, my mother and I went through some rough patches. You know how it is when you reach adolescence and think you know more than your parents do.

When I was of age and went out on my own, despite our differences, my mother would always let me come back whenever I fell on my face and I fell a lot. As I got older I came to realize and appreciate the struggle my mother went through, especial with us older siblings. We didn’t have much, but mom made sure we had what we needed. Even now her house has a revolving door where any of us can go and live if we need to.

Mom has given a lot to me to help me through this life. She’s taught me to care and respect people. Even today in my 50s I give older people respect. She’s given me help when I needed it. But most of all she’s given me life itself.

For the things she’s done for me I thank her and give her my ever lasting love. And that says it all.

Men are from Mars Women are from God knows where

I was going to start posting to this blog yesterday. My first post (beside the introduction) was going to be about the Paris Hilton jail thing. But yesterday my girlfriend and I had a big blow out, which is what prompted this post.

God knows that I don’t want to alienate women from this blog, but I have to ask ladies, what the hell? Way is it that men and women can look at the same situation and see it in completely different ways? Way is it that when men say something, women take it completely different from the way it was meant? Well, I believe it’s because of the psychological way both sexes look at things.

Men tend to look at things from a logical point of view and women look at things from an emotional point of view. Example, yesterday my girlfriend brings up a problem that we have in our relationship and a question was asked, by her, how could we solve it? So I gave what I thought would be a solution, she disagreed, which was okay. I then asked what she thought would be a solution? She said she didn’t know, again that’s okay. Now I’m thinking we’ll both think about and come up with something we can agree on. She then starts talking about how she’s feeling and what would happen to the relationship if this problem wasn’t resolved. So now I’m thinking “huh”, that doesn’t have anything to do with solving the problem, that’s adding more to it. I then made the mistake of asking why she was talking about that, to which she replied, because that’s how she was feeling and that those things would happen. Well, I already knew that, but I thought we were talking about how to prevent those things. As the conversation went on it turned into the things that I was doing wrong and how I was the blame for the problem. I ended up saying a few choice words at the top of my voice and storming off.

This to me is a typical example of the way men and women look at situations differently. In my example, I was trying to find a logical solution to the problem, where as my girlfriend wanted to express her feelings and how the problem affected her, even though she asked a question.

It is very frustrating on both parts to be in a conversation where the man is trying to reason with logic and he keeps getting talk about feelings and the woman is trying to invoke an emotional response from a man and getting nothing but facts.

Well, the fact is we need both logic and emotions, so we need to find a way for both to live side by side without clashing. And that says it all.